WLTGWITU Chapter 32

I always got the third-class scholarship. Actually, everyone gradually drifted apart over time. This guy’s love affair with our study committee member ended in our junior year. By the time I found out, a semester had already passed. In our senior year, everyone started working on graduation theses or internships. There’s a little episode here: this guy actually wanted to come back for me, but I had already plunged into the graduation rush. The only chance for a secret crush to blossom had vanished with the departure of the feeling.

In the first year of entering society, I met a humorous guy online. We teased each other a few times every day, on and off. Later, we met in person, then held hands, and then got married and had children. Hahaha, I’m the one who married her first love… I don’t regret my youth because I walked it myself…

My Husband’s annual salary is over 500,000, responsible for a monthly mortgage of about 5,700. Usually, I don’t go to my Mother-in-law’s house for dinner. On Sundays, we cook at our own home all day. In this situation, he gives my Mother-in-law 2,000 per month. I’m responsible for the expenses of our small family, the training fees for two children, food, drink, and everything else. Occasionally, I think about asking him to contribute or reimburse something, but it’s basically a no-go. As soon as money is mentioned, we argue. If I don’t mention it, things are peaceful. As long as it’s something I arrange or contact, I pay for it. Besides the mortgage and the money for my Mother-in-law, he basically doesn’t pay for anything else. He never proactively gives red envelopes during holidays, and if I ask for one on Valentine’s Day or my birthday, he’ll give 520, but if I don’t ask, I don’t get anything. Really, not even a penny. I still buy the New Year’s gifts. In 13 years of marriage, he hasn’t given me more than 2,000. Whenever I mention giving money, he asks back, “What are you saving your own money for?” This is the Husband I found with a lantern. Today, I just signed up for a summer swimming class for my eldest child for 1,100, and he asked me why I didn’t also sign up for the autumn long-term training class. I said, “Doesn’t that cost money?” Then he went silent. No follow-up… Other people’s Husbands would say, “I’ll transfer the money to you, you sign up.” That absolutely never happens in my family. Never. In over a decade, he has never proactively paid a bill or given money. Only I know the bitterness of it. I really hope some woman takes him away so I can be legitimately free.

Let me first explain the background story. My boyfriend and I were high school classmates in the next class, and we went to the same university. We got together in our sophomore year. In high school, there was a girl in his class who really liked my boyfriend.
First, let me explain the background: His parents haven’t retired and can’t help much. Since the child was born, it’s been my mom and me taking care of him. Now the child is almost two years old, and my mom’s health isn’t good, so she can’t handle it anymore. She suggested wanting to go back to her Hometown. Although my Husband and I were both unwilling, I still resigned for the sake of the child and became a full-time mom at home. Before I resigned, my salary was 10,000 a month, and I spent the money myself or covered some household expenses, and I also saved some money for the child.

Now that I have no income, I asked my Husband to give me 4,000 each month, which is about the same as my monthly expenses before. I treat this money as pocket money, and I save the extra for the child. But my Husband thinks this money is for me to cover household expenses. This month, the electricity bill is almost 300, and my Husband said to let me pay it. I don’t want to because in the past two months, the 4,000 my Husband gave me wasn’t enough at all, and I had to take it out of my savings. I firmly refused to pay this 300 electricity bill, and he felt that I was spending too much money, saying that I didn’t understand how hard he worked and complained that I wasn’t thinking about the family. My Husband’s monthly salary is nearly 20,000, plus some extra income, and he’s so stingy about giving me 4,000, and he even elevated it to the level of not thinking about the family, which made me very unhappy. We had a fight.

I feel so wronged. When I was still working, I could buy whatever I wanted and never had to look at anyone’s face. Now I’m a full-time mom, and it’s all for the sake of the child and the family, but in the end, I have to humbly ask for money.

I expressed my opinion to my Husband that this money is my salary. How come… My Husband and I met when we were in school, and I always knew he had a younger brother who was eight years younger than him.

When my Husband and I were dating, his brother started calling me “Sister-in-law” and had a sweet mouth. My Husband and his brother got along very well, and at that time, I always thought this relationship could be described as “brotherly love and respect.”

It wasn’t until after we got married that I realized how outrageous it was! Too outrageous!

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The first thing that made you feel outrageous was when you were pregnant.

In August 2015, I accidentally got pregnant. We were not prepared for the arrival of the child. Although we weren’t prepared, this was my first child, and I definitely wanted to have it.

But when I went for a prenatal checkup, the doctor told you that the child had signs of threatened miscarriage and suggested bed rest. I couldn’t go to work and could only resign.

After I resigned, my only source of income was my Husband. At that time, his salary was five or six thousand a month. We had to go for prenatal checkups and also save money to raise the child, so we lived frugally, but it was still okay.

One day, you were about to fall asleep when you vaguely saw your Husband still chatting on his phone. You wondered: I usually don’t see him chatting with anyone for so long!

The next day, I looked at his phone chat log. The general meaning was that his brother wanted to borrow money, saying that he wanted to start a small business with friends. He wanted to borrow a total of fifty or sixty thousand, and when he would pay it back depended on the situation. Fifty or sixty thousand! That was all our savings at the time.

My Husband actually agreed to his brother and was going to lend him the money. He also said, “I support you in starting a business, brother. Don’t worry about paying the money back.”

That day, I had a big fight with my Husband. When things got heated, he said, “The child isn’t even born yet! He’s my only brother. If I don’t help him, who will?”

What my Husband meant was: even if the money is lent out, we still have a little over 10,000 in hand. If he earns a little more in the first half of the year, it will be enough for childbirth expenses. Breastfeeding the child can also save some money.

He dared to have a child with only 10,000 yuan in hand, completely disregarding my life and death!

At that time, you wanted to abort the child and get divorced. You even went to the hospital. The doctor was a colleague of your cousin. At that time, she said that it wasn’t easy to keep the baby with bed rest, and it was already three months old, and the current situation was also very good. Are you sure you want to have an abortion? You could also feel the slight fetal movement of the child in your belly. Plus, your parents also advised you not to act impulsively, so you kept the child.

The second thing happened while I was taking care of the child at home. When the child was two months old, I went back to my own mother’s house to take care of the child. My Husband worked in another city and would give me living expenses on time every month. But one month, he didn’t give me the money, so I asked him about it. He casually made up an excuse to prevaricate me. I’m not stupid, so I exposed his lie.

When I kept asking, he finally said that his brother had come to him to borrow money again. This time he borrowed 10,000, saying that his brother wanted to invest. Except for a fixed deposit, most of the money had been given to his brother.

I directly took the child and went to the city where he worked and forced him to make his brother return the money. Including the previous 50,000, if he didn’t return the money, I would take the child to his brother. After all the fuss, my milk dried up. The child was allergic and could only drink hydrolyzed milk powder. I also knew that it was impossible to get his brother to return the money now, so I took out the fixed deposit all at once and deposited it into my new card and changed the password. I also linked my Husband’s salary card to my Alipay and took out his salary every month. Then give him living expenses! My Husband didn’t agree, but he had no choice. He was afraid that I would really go make trouble with his brother.

After that, he secretly gave his brother money, and I turned a blind eye, as long as I had the majority of the money.

In 2018, his brother didn’t come home for the New Year, saying that he didn’t earn any money and was embarrassed to come back. He took out his bonus and transferred several thousand to his brother. (The bonus was paid in cash, not in the card.)

In 2019, the child was going to kindergarten. His salary had already reached over 10,000, and the salary card was still in my hands. One day, I checked the Alipay balance. The four or five thousand that was originally meant to pay the tuition fee was not in the balance. I clearly transferred it to Yu’ebao! There was no record of the money coming from the transaction details! The money couldn’t have disappeared!!! I logged into the computer version of Alipay and found that the record of the money had been deleted. It was transferred from your Alipay to your Husband’s brother’s Alipay. I questioned my Husband at the time, and he said that his brother had been led astray and was involved in online gambling. He borrowed money from online loans, and there would be trouble if he didn’t pay it back. He wanted to save his brother.

Learning from previous lessons, I knew that getting angry was useless, but I was still trembling with anger. I could tolerate borrowing money to start a business, and I could tolerate borrowing money to invest, but I really couldn’t tolerate borrowing money to gamble! When my Husband wasn’t paying attention, I slapped him directly! He was stunned by my slap, and his glasses flew off. I shouted loudly, “Your brother this, your brother that, why don’t you marry your brother! Why come out and harm me?”

He always felt that you were being unreasonable. He only has one brother, and he should help.

I felt that I couldn’t live with him anymore and really wanted to get divorced. I took the child back to my mother’s house and prepared to send the child to school at my mother’s house.

He followed me there and was scolded bloody by your parents. After that, he knelt in front of you and begged you not to get divorced. This time, we didn’t get divorced either.

Life has been going on like this, neither salty nor bland. I only treat him as a money-making robot. As long as I can transfer a sum of money from his salary card every month, I’ll just muddle through.

After that, his brother asked your Husband to borrow money again because of the gambling debt. He wanted to help his brother, so you pretended not to see it, but his brother’s appetite was getting bigger and bigger.

Today at noon, after eating, he was chatting with his son: “How about Uncle coming to Hangzhou to live with us in the future?”

The son asked: “Will uncle live in your house?”

“Uncle doesn’t live in our house, he will buy his own house”

Hearing about buying a house, you immediately got excited!!!

After asking, I found out that his brother has a girlfriend from Zhejiang, and he wants to come to Hangzhou to develop. He has also reached the age of marriage, and the woman requires buying a house in Hangzhou, but his brother can’t even scrape together the down payment, so he’s turned his attention to his older brother again.

We have always been renting a house in Hangzhou and have no plans to buy a house, maybe we will return to our hometown to start a business after being laid off. What my Husband means is that instead of buying a house, he will first lend the money to his brother to buy the house, and he wants to get married!

What a joke! He borrowed about six or seventy thousand in the past few years and hasn’t paid it back, how could I lend him the money again? I just pretended to hear my Husband fart! I immediately took all the money in my card from Yu’ebao and various wealth management platforms and deposited it into a bank card! The card is not linked to Alipay and is hidden. He asks me for money, and I show him Alipay, no money!

If you force me again! You take all the money to buy a house, start first! After more than ten years of hard work, in the end, I’m working for others! I really don’t know if my Husband’s head is filled with the money he has worked so hard to earn, or if I am holding him back, he would have given it all to his brother and his parents! As for him and his original family, I can talk about it for three days and three nights!

Today I have been having liver pain all day! In my opinion, most girls are spendthrifts. Where is my freedom? My Husband doesn’t agree. He insists that this money includes a part of the household expenses. Should I fight my Husband to the end or make a concession? Everyone helps analyze. He would find him to ask questions if there was nothing else to do. My boyfriend was also quite dull and really thought it was about asking questions at first. Seeing that he didn’t react, she confessed directly, but my boyfriend didn’t like her, so he refused. This girl found my boyfriend’s good brother to help. As they interacted, the good brother fell in love with this girl and started pursuing her. In the end, they got together. This brother felt that my boyfriend had been ignoring this girl and unilaterally deleted him, which he only found out later.

Back to the present, at the end of next year, they got married. You thought this was just a youthful memory from a few years ago and never paid attention to this boy. Last night we were eating out, and when my girlfriend went to the bathroom, you saw his phone vibrate. It was sent by a male classmate. You casually clicked on it and saw that in March, this male classmate had sent a message: I am your Black Moonlight. Moreover, their chat history has been continuous. You exploded instantly. You asked your girlfriend what was going on and why they had been in contact. She told you that before graduating from high school, she felt that he had a girlfriend, so she thought it was a normal chat between classmates and replied casually, and she didn’t care much. You really didn’t know she still liked you at the time. After that, you never replied to her. Seeing this confession, you didn’t know what to do for a while. Seeing that you didn’t care, your girlfriend immediately deleted WeChat.

Even so, I’m still scared. I’m just afraid that this female classmate will come looking for him again one day. Over time, the possibility of cheating is not necessarily 0. Now I’m wondering if I should expose this matter to her Husband, but I’m also afraid of ruining the relationship between old classmates.

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