WLTGWITU Chapter 18

Okay, driving took about half an hour, so we met. Our blind dates usually involve the man going to the woman’s house to meet her family. Usually, several blind dates are arranged in one day.

The first time I met Xiao A, I thought he was quite handsome, very sunny, and a nice person. It was like I had seen him somewhere before, we had a lot to talk about. After chatting for about half an hour, Xiao A went back, and my parents thought he was okay too.

Later, I had another blind date with a guy named Xiao C. This guy’s family was pretty good, but I felt he was a bit sloppy, and I had nothing to talk to him about. My parents thought he was alright.

Two days later, Xiao A still hadn’t replied, and I didn’t know if he agreed or disagreed. As a girl, I was too embarrassed to ask him proactively. Then my dad said, “Why don’t you get together with Xiao C?” I panicked when I heard that, because I didn’t want to, as I still preferred Xiao A. Later that night, after 10 pm, when I was already asleep, my dad hurriedly ran to my bedroom and said, “Xiao A agreed! He asked if you’d like to be together?” I said I would. Later I found out that Xiao A had gone drinking with friends after the blind date that day because there were many gatherings during the New Year holiday and he had been drinking continuously until he was unconscious. He only remembered his life’s big event when he sobered up. The fact that he delayed his marriage because of drinking has been a subject of ridicule ever since, haha.

Then we continued the family’s blind date and engagement process. We went out shopping and dating, and our parents discussed the bride price and setting the wedding date. After the date was set, I went back to work first because I had to go back to work after the New Year. We kept in touch on QQ. One day, he said he wanted to start his own business and wanted me to join him. At first, I wasn’t very willing to give up my current job, but then he drove over to pick me up. I couldn’t refuse, so I went with him. We got married two months later. Now we have two lovely daughters. Through our efforts, we have also bought a house, and our life is still very happy. I also wish everyone can find their ideal partner!

The roads walked, the things experienced, the people met. Although the memory is a bit blurry, and many details may even be forgotten, the fragments engraved in my mind are still clear. I cannot control the ever-changing circumstances on the road of life. I can only bear to adjust my state to face every unfavorable arrival, the encounters that have already happened, constantly adapting to the changes in life in adversity, overcoming all kinds of unbearable hardships, and facing wave after wave of steep slopes and setbacks. The depression in my heart sometimes makes it hard to breathe. I can only look up to the sky, take a deep breath, and slowly exhale, smoothing out the locked melancholy. No one will understand the sadness of life, no one will experience the same experiences with empathy. Only when you have experienced all kinds of setbacks and adversities can you understand the bitterness of life, which can only be understood implicitly and is difficult to express in words. The beauty of life can only be felt after experiencing suffering. Helping kindly and warmly in hardship, you will find how precious and rare it is. When recalling the past, the blurred vision and clear memories slowly pull back to every scene of life.

May 30, 2019, this was an ordinary day. I was at work in my company. Around 4 pm, while providing maintenance service at a client’s home, I received a tense call from my wife. My child’s leg was broken, and I had to come back immediately. After a brief understanding, I quickly hung up my wife’s phone and dialed 120. When I received the call, I was also at a loss and didn’t know how to face it. My child’s physical condition was already poor. When we were at home, I repeatedly told my wife that the child could hardly walk and that she should pay attention to the child to avoid falling. In the past, when the child fell, it only resulted in a big bump on the forehead or a bloody arm. I never thought that the femur of the thigh would also break, which shows how much force there was when the child fell. It’s hard to describe. I hurriedly asked for leave from my company and rushed to the Binjiang Children’s Hospital by subway.

When I arrived at the hospital, the child was already lying in the emergency room, covered in sweat, with a painful expression, occasionally groaning and constantly crying out in pain and discomfort, waiting for the doctor’s treatment. The child’s trouser leg was cut open, and the thigh was deformed, black, congested, and swollen. The doctor only did a simple splint protection, and we were arranged to the inpatient department to wait for X-ray examination the next day.

After being admitted to the ward and starting blood tests and other examinations, it was already past 8 pm. After being busy, even though I ordered a bowl of rice, it was difficult to swallow, seeing the child suffering from pain. I stayed by the bed, sleepless all night. The next day, because there were various examinations to be done, I took leave again to accompany my child to have a leg X-ray and brain CT examination, as well as various blood tests. Almost the entire day was spent on the road of various examinations. It was a busy day, and only when I had free time did I realize that I had hardly eaten or drunk anything all day. After everything was settled, I could only rest for a while sitting on the stool by the hospital bed.

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The late nights in the hospital are also restless and uneasy nights. If it’s not your child making noise, it’s another child crying. The calling sounds from the beds and the children’s cries are almost incessant. It’s hard to stay quiet for even a moment. It’s only around 4 or 5 in the morning that everyone can rest a little bit quietly, doze off for a while, and then be interrupted again by your child’s painful cries, waking up the child and the adults on the adjacent bed. The parents of the child in the next bed are also very unhappy and seem to have the intention of blaming us. You can only get up, bend over, and bow to express your apology for disturbing them, feeling deeply ashamed.

After all the examination reports came out, the doctor looked at the child’s indicators. Originally, the doctor planned to perform surgery on the child’s fracture to insert steel nails, but it was canceled due to the child’s underlying health conditions. Considering the child’s various indicators, the doctor informed us that we could only do external fixation and then use a plaster cast for the lower body as a conservative treatment. Because the child’s leg swelling had not subsided, we had to wait for the swelling to disappear before performing the conservative surgery to apply the plaster cast on another day. The time spent in the hospital was relatively delayed for many days.

While the child was in the hospital, on the one hand, I had to go to work, and on the other hand, it was difficult to take care of the child alone. Facing the fact that the child’s mother could not cope with the pre-fracture care alone at night, I could only work overtime and rush to the hospital before work. Sometimes with a bun in my hand, I would eat while rushing on the road. Sometimes I would go to work without sleeping all night, sometimes I would stand on the subway on the way to work and fall asleep. Resting for a short while. Living a monotonous life, with a scruffy beard, busy and decadent, I could hardly take care of my own image. In the noisy hospital, I could only sit on the hospital chair and rest for a while, hardly able to fall asleep. Sometimes in the long night, I could only wait motionlessly for the moment when it got light.

The conservative surgery to apply the plaster cast was arranged on the sixth day after the child’s fracture, and the surgery was finally carried out.

In the days before the surgery and the application of the plaster cast, the subsequent daily life and care were a real test for us. The child ate on the **, and the child also peed and pooped on the **. Because the child’s upper body, above the navel, was completely fixed with the plaster cast, the child could neither sit nor lie on the side, but only lie flat on the ** all the time. In the two or three days after returning home, because of the plaster cast, although there was gauze padding on the back, an unexpected abrasion still occurred, and the back was abraded into a blood hole one centimeter long, and it should slowly become inflamed. I went to the pharmacy myself to buy iodine for disinfection and then applied anti-inflammatory medicine. After a week, I didn’t see any improvement, and I felt that the wound was getting bigger and the skin ulceration surface was increasing.

Anxious and worried, I had to send a photo of the child’s wound on WeChat to ask others if there were any good medicines that could quickly heal the child’s wound. Unexpectedly, I received enthusiastic responses from friends and colleagues, especially Chen Xuefeng, a colleague who used to work on our project. The next day, she brought us a medicine for skin injuries that was made in her hometown. I also knew that her own child had been scalded by boiling water during that time, and she took the medicine she used for her own child, found a Vitamin D bottle, poured more than half a bottle for me, and taught me how to use it. I knew when I took

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