WLTGWITU Chapter 26

Saying it like that, the landlord is very easy to talk to. Don’t just assume things about others (you said you wanted to rent it, and then found all sorts of excuses when you weren’t satisfied. If you don’t like it, just say you don’t like it, why complain about the light? So rude!).

Sigh…I’m so exhausted trying to sublet this place.

My Husband has a very good relationship with a colleague. Before they worked at different branches of the same company, they basically chatted from morning till night (on WeChat). It’s no exaggeration to say they start messaging each other as soon as the alarm goes off in the morning, and they’re still chatting before going to bed. I used to tell my Husband that he should spend more time with the kids after work instead of being on his phone all the time, chatting about nothing. Now that they work together in the same office, they still message each other after work. They have so much to say, it’s like they’re dating. They’re basically messaging each other except when they’re sleeping. He’s complaining about his family and his wife, and my Husband is complaining about our family. Even when the kids want him to play games with them, he’s just looking at his phone and chatting. I couldn’t take it anymore and said a few things, and we ended up arguing! He thinks it’s okay to chat since it’s not a female colleague. I don’t think he should spend the little time he has to spend with us chatting! The other person is married but doesn’t have kids, so maybe they’re more free. We have two kids. Now, chatting is more important than spending time with us! This has been bothering me for a long time. Can you all help me understand? I really feel helpless. His colleague is a good person, and we’ve eaten together. He’s very generous and often buys gifts for our kids. I have no problem with him as a person, but I don’t understand this mode of chatting more than close girlfriends! What could they possibly have to say that they haven’t said during the day at work, that they have to keep chatting on their phones after work? I don’t think even close female friends have that much to talk about! When I say something to my Husband, he gets angry and asks me what’s wrong with chatting a few times! It’s not just a few times, though. Every morning, before we even get out of bed, his phone vibrates because his colleague is already messaging him. And the day ends with them chatting! Am I really not giving him the freedom to make friends?

My boyfriend has a very good female Friend. They live in the same building, one above the other. They were classmates in elementary school and junior high school, and they went to the same high school in neighboring classes. They went to neighboring schools in Xiasha for college. They got married at 29, and it’s been 6 years now. It seems like in the last two years, they’ve increasingly felt that marriage isn’t worth it.

The first few years after they got married, before they had kids, their relationship was still good. But after the child was born, all sorts of conflicts emerged. They started to haggle over how much each of them contributed, and they could argue over the smallest things. As a Husband and a father, he thinks he’s already doing a good job, but in his partner’s eyes, he’s never doing enough.

Let me briefly describe our situation.

Male: Annual salary of 240,000, of which at least 180,000 is spent on the family. After paying off the mortgage and deducting living expenses, he hands over his salary. He goes out to dinner and drinks with friends once or twice a month. He really can’t quit smoking, but he basically doesn’t smoke at home. He eats in the cafeteria. He doesn’t spend money on games. He leaves home at 7:20 in the morning and gets home before 8:00 in the evening. He takes care of the child on weekends and after work. He contributed 600,000 to buying the house.

Female: Annual income of 120,000, of which at least 70,000 is spent on the family. She’s relatively frugal and doesn’t have much desire to buy things. She contributes a lot to the family. The mother is mainly responsible for the child’s daily care. She contributed 400,000 to buying the house.

Currently, what she’s unhappy about is: after getting married, they have to rely on themselves entirely, and women with worse conditions than her are living better lives; she’s had to reduce her spending because she contributed so much money to the marriage; and she thinks I don’t devote enough time and energy to the family.

[If you are seeing this text, please exit reading mode, or go to the “source webpage” to read normally]
The points of dissatisfaction for you after marriage: the quality of life has declined sharply, you are already very thrifty and still criticized for being small-handed and footed; you are often nitpicked and complained about, it seems that everything you do will be said.

So in this marriage, who is at a loss, the man or the woman? Both sides feel that marriage has led to a decline in the quality of life. Is there a solution? Simply put, it is a childhood sweetheart relationship. My boyfriend told me that they are just good brothers, and there will never be feelings of love between them in this lifetime. But not only are they close, but their parents are also very familiar with each other. I always have a strange feeling.

Once, you two went out to see a movie, and she followed along. She explained to you that she ran into you by chance, and that she really wanted to see this movie, but she couldn’t find anyone to go with, so she went to see it. Originally it was supposed to be a date between the two of you, but suddenly it became a movie for three people, which was a little uncomfortable. And they were both wearing BOY clothes and Nike shoes, one white and one black, as if they were the couple and you were just a passerby. After returning home, you were very angry and told him about this. His explanation to you was that they have always liked to wear this brand of clothes and shoes, and there are many such clothes at home, it was just a coincidence, and he told you not to care too much.

I’m especially angry, I really can’t stand my boyfriend being so close to a member of the opposite sex. My boyfriend thinks that if I mind, he will keep his distance from her. So he sent her a WeChat message, saying that he wanted to keep his distance. As a result, she replied: “Forgot friends after having a girlfriend” and said she was very disappointed in her boyfriend. Speechless, she doesn’t even have a sense of boundaries and blames others.

You thought this was the end of the matter, but yesterday when you were chatting with your girlfriend, he sent you an emoji by hand. Yes, that’s right, it’s that childhood sweetheart’s self-made emoji. Although he quickly withdrew it, you still saw it. You pretended not to care and told him that you are very likely to break up one day because of her. He also told you that if he really wanted them to break up, he could, but he would be very sad. You don’t know what to do, you can only let him have a sense of boundaries, and it’s redundant to say anything else.

Their relationship makes me feel like I have a bone stuck in my throat, it’s very uncomfortable.

I’m 38, she’s 32, same private company, same department, we see each other almost every day, and feelings grow over time. Both are divorced and single.

When she joined the company in 2020, we were in the same department. It wasn’t love at first sight, but I slowly developed feelings for her. She is a beautiful girl who is very pleasing to the eye, not stunning at first glance, but has a lingering charm. She looks young, five or six years younger than her actual age, not a stunning beauty but a comfortable beauty.

At that time, I had good feelings but didn’t dare to express them. At most, I would buy her a cup of milk tea or a dessert, and we would celebrate her birthday together. I would use the excuse of waiting for her after the company worked overtime…I never confessed, but gradually in my heart, I regarded her as a goddess. My liking for her is not only because of her appearance, her words and deeds are gentle and graceful, and she gets along well with others. She is a very suitable partner (in my opinion).

Last year, as we became more familiar with each other, our relationship slowly grew closer, and we learned more about each other—she had more than a dozen relationships in her student days before getting married, and she has been single for several years now. At the beginning of last year, she dated her first boyfriend A after the divorce. This man came to the company once. Objectively speaking, he looked average.

During the two years I spent with her, I never confessed, and I was always good to her silently. For example, if she had a stomach ache, stomach medicine would be delivered to her very quickly, and she might not even know who delivered it in the end. If it rained and she didn’t bring an umbrella, someone would call

Download Chapter as TXT