WLTGWITU Chapter 11

It’s his blessing that he brings us small gifts every time he returns from a business trip. Our little life is quite happy. But the daily necessities of life have also turned me into a haggard woman. At 26, I don’t wear makeup, don’t dress myself up, and rarely look in the mirror all year round. Every day I wake up to take care of the children, do housework, and cook. My skin condition has indeed deteriorated. I think as long as the family is happy and the children are healthy, my appearance is not very important. But who knew he was actually hooking up with girls all over the internet.

My husband often goes on business trips to other places, usually for four or five days. He just returned from a business trip last Saturday. It was already 11 pm. He was very tired, so he washed up and went to bed. He slept until 2 pm on Sunday afternoon before getting up. As always, I got up to clean the house and take care of the baby, and found his phone ringing. I glanced at it and saw a message from a social networking app. I opened it and saw a girl’s chat history with him. The girl asked him, “Brother, are you awake?” I fainted on the spot when I saw it. Going back and looking at other private messages, they were all messages from him hooking up with other people, with girls of various styles. He directly asked the other party, “Miss, you are so beautiful, can I add you?” Thanks to the recommendation of 19th floor and everyone’s comments, the last post said that we had a fight after confirming the phone call. It was the most serious quarrel since we got married. Watching her cry and saying that she married far away to Hangzhou and didn’t want anything from me, I felt a mix of emotions. I really didn’t know what to say at this time. Calming down, my mother-in-law’s phone call also came, scolding her daughter on the phone and asking me to take the call. I was much calmer at this time and told my mother-in-law that the money was also used up, and this year is another epidemic. I will slowly pay her back when I have money. My mother-in-law said it’s okay, it’s okay, let us not quarrel and live a good life. I said “Okay” and handed the phone back to her. Later, she came over and apologized to me, and I just sighed silently. I said that the renovation of the house is fine, let’s try to save money to pay back your mother! She disagreed and said that the money can be paid back slowly. There are two rooms in the 70 square meter house, and her son can have his own room. I said where will the renovation money come from? She asked me to ask the renovation people for a price first. Through a friend’s introduction, I found three renovation masters who could contract the house renovation and estimated the price. Finally, the price was determined at 55,000. She borrowed 60,000 from Jiebei on Alipay in twelve installments to pay for the renovation (because the renovation did not include the installation costs of anti-theft doors and screens, I bought an electronic password anti-theft door for 2,000 yuan through a friend’s introduction and paid more than 1,800 yuan for the full year’s property fee in 2020). The house started renovation in May and ended in July. Half of the renovation payment was paid in June, and the balance was settled after the renovation. During these two months of renovation, I had to go to the site sometimes during the day and drive to work at night. In addition, the epidemic affected the business badly, and it was basically just making ends meet! From July, when the first installment had to be repaid, she started urging me for money every 20-something, more dedicated than a debt collection company. When renovating the house, I asked my Daughter if she was willing to live with us, but my Daughter was unwilling, so I didn’t force it.

We moved into the new house on September 26, 2020. Her brother and dad both gave housewarming gifts. She said that her brother’s more than 8,000 yuan was returned, and her dad’s was kept, anyway, I don’t know how much. The monthly installments still have to be asked from me. I really had no choice. For a few months, I borrowed money online to transfer to her. And our old house has not been rented out. Several people came to see the house, but the price was not negotiated, so we stumbled into 2021. Because there was another epidemic before the New Year, I didn’t accompany her back to my hometown for the New Year this year. We stayed in Hangzhou for the New Year together. We had dinner at my parents’ house on New Year’s Eve, and I asked my Daughter to come home for dinner on the first day of the New Year. I wanted my Daughter to stay for one night, but she disagreed. The reason was that I asked my Daughter before the renovation, and my Daughter herself was unwilling to come and live there, so I didn’t buy bunk beds and there was no place for my Daughter to sleep. This made me angry. I said that a female colleague came to my house before the New Year to stay overnight, is my Daughter not even as good as a stranger? It’s a waste that my Daughter still calls you Mom. Your son is a treasure, isn’t my Daughter anything? So I didn’t even feel like cooking (this all happened before my Daughter came), but in the end, I prepared a table of dishes and ate with my Daughter. After eating, my Daughter sat for a while and wanted to go back to her grandparents’ house, so I sent her back.

Through these things, I am really confused now. Can a second marriage really last? How should I deal with my future life? Should I continue to live like this or choose to divorce again? Will there be love again? Will I enter the walled city again?

There are dozens of private messages like this, some with replies and some without replies. I really collapsed. No one can really get out of their partner’s phone. His actions are too chilling to me. The man who usually says he loves me is actually secretly hooking up with girls. But I can’t be sure if he has cheated, because these chat records can only show that he is flirting. And what if he quibbles and says it wasn’t him who sent them? I checked his WeChat and found nothing unusual. Should I talk to him directly? Our two children are still so young, I really don’t know what to do?

I met my husband through a blind date. We have been married for more than half a year and live with my mother-in-law. My husband takes care of all the housework and has a very good temper with me. But he actually quarreled with me over a game. I don’t know what to do.

Let me talk about the background first. My monthly salary is nearly 18,000, and my husband’s is about 13,000. I manage the salary. My husband has a house before marriage, without my name, and the monthly payment is 8,000, which is deducted from my husband’s salary. The monthly household expenses are about 5,000. We each pay half, which is 2,500. This leaves my husband with 2,500 in salary. I give him 1,500 a month for pocket money. We eat lunch at the company with lunch boxes every day and eat at home at night. Daily expenses are breakfast and commuting. The remaining 1,000 is saved. My own expenses, such as skin care products and cosmetics, are never paid for with my husband’s money. After deducting household expenses, I can basically save 13,000 a month.

Recently, my husband wants to buy a game console. A whole set costs 5,000 yuan. He wants me to give him the money to buy it. I have always disliked him playing games. He likes to play games whenever he is free. I think games are just for leisure and entertainment, and there is no need to spend so much money. If he insists on buying it, then he should save his own money. And my husband’s salary is only so much. If he saves 1,000 yuan a month, he can buy a game console in 5 months. My husband is angry because of this and went to live in the company dormitory. He said that this way he can save on commuting expenses and go home after he has saved enough money to buy a game console. I think my husband is not mature at all. He is actually going to separate from me for the sake of the game. I don’t know what to say when my mother-in-law asks. I don’t want my mother-in-law to get involved in the game. I think my method is quite feasible. If I give him the 5,000 yuan directly, he will definitely think that I support him in playing games. There will be a first time and then a second time. I can’t indulge him. But it’s not okay to be separated like this all the time. I don’t know if there is any good way to resolve our conflicts…

To Yunnan, called her before boarding the plane to tell her. She was also surprised and happy, and opened a hotel in Chuxiong (My Mother-in-law has contracted dozens of acres of land in a village below Chuxiong to grow watermelons). That day we kissed and hugged each other as soon as we met and had sex. I also took out a ring and proposed to her, and she agreed! The next day I went with her to the watermelon shed to meet my Mother-in-law and her son. I accompanied her for two days in Yunnan before returning to Hangzhou. Not long after I returned to Hangzhou, I received a call from her crying and telling me that she had quarreled with her Mother-in-law. I kept comforting her and persuading her, but it was useless. Finally, I said that at least you still have me! She wanted to come to Hangzhou, so I booked a ticket for her and her son. That day I went to the airport to pick her up, but the plane had to make an emergency landing in Ningbo. I waited until the morning and rushed to Ningbo by high-speed rail. After picking her up, she said that she needed to go back to Taizhou to get some things and leave her son to her ex-husband for a while. So I went to Taizhou with her again for two days before returning to Hangzhou.

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After the Spring Festival and before Valentine’s Day in 2014, you and she discussed the previous life-and-death matters and wanted to register for marriage, but she said that you could just live together like this. You were very angry because you may be very accepting of new things, but your heart is still relatively traditional and old-fashioned. (Holding the idea of ​​”May you get one heart, and your black hair will never be separated”), you must have marriage. If you don’t get married, then let’s break up. So you registered for marriage on March 14, 2014. (Because it was a second marriage, there was no wedding banquet at the time). Just after getting married, you received a court summons from her ex-husband requesting the return of the child’s custody. You accompanied her back to Guanting again, and at the beginning, you managed to keep her custody and took the child back to Hangzhou together. You found some connections to get her son into a kindergarten near the house. In this way, you lived a family of four, because your son has always been brought up by your parents since he was a child, and he is very disgusted with this kind of life, so he strongly demanded to live with his grandparents. In fact, he couldn’t resist, so he had to agree. In view of the failure of the first marriage, I also

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