WLTGWITU Chapter 1

A good Friend recently changed jobs. He used to work in a private company with an annual salary of 130,000 to 140,000, but recently he got a job Within the System, but the starting salary is relatively low, only 80,000+ a year. I think he might as well not have switched. His salary was much higher than it is now. He feels that this opportunity was hard-earned, so he should go in and see how it is first.

Seeing the title, some people will definitely start arguing again, what a joke! Are there any positions in Hangzhou Within the System with an annual salary of 80,000? Contract workers, temporary workers, right? At least 150,000 to 200,000 is the baseline Within the System! Not including quarterly bonuses, year-end bonuses, and various benefits, but… it really exists! It’s just that you don’t know about it. And they are formal employees with prepared by, not temporary workers outside the prepared by! I won’t go into details. The 80,000 here refers to the salary plus the Housing Fund, plus miscellaneous things, totaling a little over 80,000 a year. They don’t have to pay their own social security; however much they pay, the company will reimburse them. In addition, there is a professional annuity, Five Insurances and Two Funds. The work schedule is 9 to 5, with weekends off, which is relatively easy. Then, every five years, they can apply for a Level 1 Professional Title. If they get it, they will get an extra thousand yuan or so in salary each month. This job also requires passing a unified recruitment exam, written test, interview, skills test, physical examination, political review… passing through layers of hurdles to finally get in. The stability is relatively strong.

The private enterprise, adding up all the miscellaneous things, gets about 130,000 to 140,000 a year, Five Insurances and One Fund. The work schedule is 9 to 5, with weekends off, and not much overtime, but the working hours are quite busy. Moreover, because it is a technical position, there is not much room for promotion. You can probably only earn this much even if you work for several years. There is no clear salary increase mechanism, and the salary grows slowly. If it were you, what would you choose?

Supplementary information: My Friend is 30 years old this year, unmarried, and from an ordinary rural family in the province. Two years ago, his family emptied their savings and borrowed some money to barely support him in buying a house in the Hangzhou Suburbs. He has to pay the monthly mortgage himself, so the pressure is still quite high. This is also an important reason for his hesitation. If he chooses a job Within the System, the pressure will be very high, and he will probably have to find some part-time jobs. Also, he is a very motivated person and feels that he can’t learn anything Within the System. The job content can basically be done by a high school student. After a long time, his original skills will also be wasted, and he will feel like he is wasting his time. The System is not a panacea. It’s like boiling a frog in warm water. The longer you stay in it, the more dependent you become on it. In ten or twenty years, if there are large-scale layoffs like in the state-owned enterprises in the 1980s, you’ll really be crying your eyes out. Now, society is developing rapidly, and the country is constantly carrying out systemic reforms. Many public institutions are going to be cut or restructured. Even Within the System, they have begun to implement a mechanism of “the capable go up, the mediocre go down.” Many Friends Within the System are also extremely busy and often work overtime, no longer living the days of reading a newspaper and drinking a cup of tea all day long. He doesn’t like this feeling of not being able to control the future and is quite anxious, so he is quite hesitant.

I have to complain about the team-building activities in my Husband’s department. They like to rent a small villa for everyone to eat, drink, and sing together. The key is that they also stay overnight, and it’s happened several times. The first time, I was a little worried, afraid that the men and women would get up to something, so I went with him. Family members can join the team-building. After going once, I felt a little relieved. I found that there were many boys in their department, and most of the girls also had boyfriends. Everyone behaved very properly when playing, so there seemed to be nothing to worry about. But what happened at the team-building a few days ago made me feel uncomfortable.

During the team-building, my Husband posted a group photo of the department on his Moments. I actually saw a girl wearing his pajamas!!! I immediately asked him on WeChat what was going on. He said that the girl took the wrong luggage and didn’t bring any change of clothes. I happened to have an extra set, so I let her wear it. He also said that the girl was a new colleague, born in ’99, just like a little sister. I was taking care of the newcomer, and I shouldn’t be jealous for no reason. We were still eating, and we’d talk about it when he got back. Hearing this, I immediately blew up. Can a girl born in ’99 borrow pajamas just because she’s a little sister? I bombarded him on WeChat, but he ignored me, and then I called him, but he actually hung up without answering. He was clearly in the wrong, but he was still so confident. What kind of attitude is this?

My Husband and I met on a Blind Date, dated for half a year, and have been married for almost two and a half years. I got pregnant and had a baby as soon as we got married, and the baby is 18 months old.

His family is from Hangzhou, and he is an only child. My family is from a county below, and I am also an only child. His family is better off than mine. From high school onwards, my parents asked me to be independent, and after experiencing my ex-boyfriend’s cheating, I felt that loyalty was very important. He was extremely spoiled by his parents. Basically, they would hand him his clothes and feed him. They only required him to go to work. When we first met, he would do whatever I wanted. He would also give me half of his salary every month, and he wouldn’t go out to play. He told me that he would play games but not very often. From the time we got married, he felt that his current job was not good and wanted to change jobs. I had no objection because it was his job, and only he knew if he was happy or not. However, this job search lasted from February to December. I had already given birth and finished my confinement before he went to work.

After giving birth, he often attacked me personally, saying that I was fat (his body type is extremely thin, 170cm/90kg), and making fun of me. He also strongly opposed me going out to eat or shop with my female classmates from the dormitory. Every time I came back, he would say that I wasn’t taking care of the baby. I even suspect that he is trying to PUA me.

He rarely takes care of the baby. Once we had an argument, and he said that taking care of the baby is all a woman’s job. He’s already being very nice by helping me take care of the baby for a while. Other men don’t take care of the baby at all!

I’m really angry! What do you mean the baby is all a woman’s responsibility? What are men for then?! Did you earn money to support the family? Did you give me money every month? You earn only 4000+ a month, and your food and lodging are all at home, just lunch, and then driving and refueling. You hardly have any other expenses, and you keep telling me you’re poor? I earn almost twice as much as you and have to be responsible for part of the baby’s expenses. However much money he gives the baby, I also deposit a slightly smaller amount into the baby’s card. He actually said to me, “Who knows if you deposited it or not?” What is that supposed to mean? Don’t you have a heart or a brain? He is a light sleeper, so he moved to a small room not long after the baby was born. Recently, he told me that he was going to move his computer to the small room as well. I said, then you have to take care of the baby until at least 9 pm every night! He said okay. I think his plan is to have his mom take care of the baby every night. Damn it, then the baby will have nothing to do with him at all. His mom is responsible during the day, and I’m responsible at night, and he’s like a single person, shrugging his shoulders and not caring about anything. So, I didn’t agree.

What era is this? How can there still be people like this?! Don’t you have any shame? Is it that your values are distorted or your upbringing is bad? It’s despairing.

Ah! Okay, let me say some of his good points so I don’t feel so bad.

Besides going to work and family gatherings, he doesn’t have any other necessary things to go out for. He doesn’t go out for anything else, and he never spends money on games.

He doesn’t have any messy friends, just a few classmates he grew up with. They have a decent relationship but rarely get together. When they have time, they play Black together. At the time, I thought this person’s social circle was quite simple, and I thought it was pretty good.

He washes the baby’s clothes after the baby takes a bath (he has hardly ever washed his own clothes by hand).

I suddenly thought, is he used to bossing his mom around, so now he bosses me around like he bosses his mom around, and everything has to be according to him? *eye roll* I wonder when he will grow up. You big idiot, I still have hope for you. Can you grow up sooner!!! Don’t make me angry anymore!!! Also, die later than me, otherwise I’m scared!!!

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